How Long Can I Tell Lies To My Children ?
This is the story of a little boy and his mother who were poor but honest,” I told my sons when they asked for a story. “His father was dead, so they lived on whatever money his mom brought home, working as a domestic help.”
Although I had a wide range of stories to choose from – fairy tales to Alif Laila, I decided to tell them a positive story from my homeland, a land they have not yet seen but are keen to know about.
When I was a child, I thought there were plenty of positive stories. Now I am not so sure. Are you?
On Eid day, the mother said to her son: “Wake up, beta, it’s time for Eid prayers.”
“Didn’t she go with him to the mosque?” asked my son Ramiz.
“No, she had to clean up their little hut and prepare something for Eid,” I lied.
I did not tell him that in my country mosques are for men only.
It would have confused my children. Their mother goes to the mosque with them. Also, at school they pray with girls, not separately.
“I hope she made a cake for him because I do not like Eid dishes,” said Ariz.
“No, beta, she did not make a cake and cooked no Eid dishes either.” This time I could not lie.
“Why not?” asked Ryan.
“Because they had no money,” I said.
“They were poor, don’t you see,” said Ariz to his brother. “They will get food from the community kitchen.”
“They lived in a small village where there was no community kitchen,” I said, not telling them that many sleep hungry in my country, Eid or no Eid.
“Why are there so many poor people where you come from, Baba?” asked Ramiz.
I did not know why but Ryan saved me. “Let’s proceed with the story,” he said.
“The boy went out of the hut and started washing himself,” I said.
“Out in the open? Didn’t they have a bathroom?” asked one of the three.
“Most people do not have bathrooms there,” I had to admit.
“They do not have bathrooms?” this time all three shouted together. “How is it possible?” asked one. “How can you not have a bathroom?” asked another.
Not sure how to respond, I said: “They had not yet built one.”
“OK, OK, so they go to a public toilet,” said the third one.
I could not tell him that I once went to a public toilet back home and could not eat the whole day.
The boy washed himself and said: “Mom, I am ready. Where is my Eid dress?”
The mother gave him his dress: a pair of old Shalwar Kameez with patches to hide the holes.
“But mom, people wear new clothes on Eid,” the boy protested.
“You know, beta, we cannot afford new clothes,” said the mother, wiping her tears.
The son, being a poor boy, understood and put on the dress. He then asked for food. The mother gave him some pieces of bread with pickles. The son, being poor, understood and ate what his mother gave.
“How could he understand so much, he was just a little boy?” asked Ramiz.
“He did,” said I, without daring to explain that where I come from poor boys and girls understand everything. They have to because they have no choice.
After he finished eating, the mother sent her poor son to the mosque, wiping her tears.
“Why just cry?” asked one of the three. “She could have done some extra work and bought her son a pair of new clothes and food for Eid day,” he said.
I could not explain that being a young widow, she did not have too many options.
The mosque was far from his hut. The boy walked slowly, with a heavy heart, looking at other boys in new clothes and with filled stomachs.
He went to the mosque and sat in a corner. No one greeted him and he greeted no one.
When the prayer was over, he got up quietly and walked out of the mosque. Nobody hugged him or said ‘Eid Mubarak’ to him.
“No, that’s not true,” said Ryan. “So many people greet you and you have to hug so many that it hurts.”
It reminded me of his comments after the Eid prayers, “enough of Eid Mubarak, dad. Let’s go home.”
“But this boy was poor,” I said.
“So nobody says Eid Mubarak to a poor boy?” asked Ariz. “That’s too bad.”
“Not exactly, there are a lot of good people too,” I defended my homeland. “They give food and clothes to the poor and say Eid Mubarak to them as well.”
It was a half-truth. I have seen people giving food and clothes but never saw people saying Eid Mubarak to the poor.
The boy was very sad. He too wanted new clothes and Eid food. Also, he did not like the way people treated him in the mosque, pushing him to the last row.
When he thought of this he too started crying. And that’s when an angel came to him.
(As I brought this angel into the story, I thought: “If the boy tells his neighbours that an angel came to him, they will accuse him of blasphemy. If they are lucky, his mother and he will spend the rest of their lives in prison. If not, they will be killed.”)